Exdh and I have been split up for about 3 1/2 years. Our DD is almost 5. Exdh has always had issues with sticking to custody agreements. Neither of us get CS, we have 50/50 legally. So anyway, April 18th I get a facebook message from someone I don't know. I checked her facebook page before I read the message--she's in recovery as a part of AlAnon and NarcAnon (Alcoholics and Narcotics anonymous) since April 16th (so...two days?!), a recovering "sexxx trafficking survivor" and "I drift in between this world and the next, sometimes dreaming of the day I can take my life and forget about all this mess I've created", etc. I copied and pasted those from her page. The message said:
"Hi there i'm dating (ex) and im (dd's) new stepmom so hi"
I was like...what the fuck?! I don't care if he dates...whatever, more power to him. But, this chick I don't know who, according to fb, started dating exdh on the 18th now thinks she is my child's stepmom? No. Not just no, but hell no.
So, fast forward. Exdh works at Starbucks and works 40 hours a week or less. He got this whole last weekend off. It was dd's first tball game and he was supposed to come pick her up and spend the weekend with her (his timesharing is weekends). He never showed. Sunday night, I held my dd as she cried until she almost vomited because she couldn't see her dad. She was really, really upset. She asked if it was because she was bad or wouldn't eat her dinner...was that why daddy didn't love her and want to see her? I just told her he was busy and he would try again soon :/.
Today, he sends me a message on facebook and says he has a girlfriend now. I said fine...you have my phone number, we aren't in highschool, calll me...wtf? He said he can't she's asleep O.O okay...
And, he texts me today and says "btw i forgot to tell you (girlfriend) and i are going to fly out to cali for the week" We might be back for (dd's) birthday". Her birthday is May 6th. This is the man who asked me for $4 for a gallon of milk last week when he took DD so I could go to the doctor! WTF!!!!
So, is this normal? What would you do? I've already contacted my attorney and we're going to amend timesharing and enact child support.