I don't know where to start. This may just be a complaining/venting post but I would love to get any helpful suggestions or BTDT replies.
When DS was a toddler and small boy, he was such a joy. So curious, smart, polite, sweet. He amazed me every day with his endless questions and enthuiasm to learn about things.
Now he is 12 and I can hardly stand to spend an hour with him! Its driving me crazy and I feel like a terrible mom but anything I try does not work.
His grades are OK, not great but OK. He doesn't want to do ANYTHING except to stay in his room on the computer or read his kindle (he loves to read, always has). In school he does not eat lunch with other kids, he sits by himself and reads his kindle or goes to the library. At home, I can't get him to play or get any excercise. If I do get him out of the house for a 1/2 hour bike ride, he rides for 10 minutes and runs back inside. On weekends he sleeps in until noon or later if I don't wake him. I can't get him to do any activities and I have tried and tried. He either quits or sits out on the side.
During Sunday school (which I force him to go) half the time he falls asleep. He won't play with the other kids or even socialize.
If I try to spend time with him, even just by sitting in his room or sitting with him at a meal, he only wants to talk about videos he saw (that are mainly sci-fi and really strange) or wants me to watch vidoes he liked, or watch video games he played (which last a long time) or tell me about book he's read. I don't mind this, but there is little I can add to this other than 'that's interesting, that's facinating, wow, etc.'. There is no way to have a follow on conversation.
I took him to see the movie '42' this weekend and he was really mad at all the racism in the movie and wanted to talk to me about it and why he didn't like the movie during the movie. I told him I was watching the movie he would have to wait until after and we'd discuss. He then fell asleep for the rest of the movie because he didn't like it.
I don't know what to do with him other than to let him be in his room by himself. But this really bothers me--as a parent, I feel like I'm supposed to make sure he plays with friends or does activites or does things. But I'm just always fighting him.
BTW, he is rude to other people now. He used to be so sweet! I feel like I don't want him to interact with people who come over to our house because he'll be rude. We also went to his school's play this weekend and he complained to me the whole time that he had to watch it and wanted to, instead, take a nap. I told him 'no' because his stepsister was in the play and didn't want to hurt her feelings. So the whole time I'm telling him to pick up his head and open his eyes!
Right now, I am not enjoying being my DS's mom a whole lot.