My Skids live with DH & I. So, I'm the "day to day" Mom. I cook for them, get them to school, shop for them/with them. Make sure they have what they need for school or sports or whatever. You know, normal Mom type stuff. I enjoy doing these things. They're my family.
What I'm having a hard time with is when to step back... For example... SS is a Senior in HS this year. He plays baseball. They have what's called "Senior Night", where the parents go out on the field when the Senior players are announced. BM (who lives about 2 hours away) is coming in for this. I'm glad she can be there! We have a great relationship, so there's no jealousy or anything like that. What I'm struggling with is knowing that I have to step back & let BM & DH go out there with SS, even though I'm the "Mom" type person in my SS's life every day. It's the little things like that that I'm having a hard time stepping away from. It's kind of like, "But, I'm here every day for them. Why do I have to stand in the shadows?" I don't begrudge BM ANY of these things. She's a great person & a great Mom, & she should certainly be involved in all of these things. But, how do I stop feeling like I want to be involved too, when I know it's not my place? I just don't know how to be a part-time SM, I guess.