Need help understanding step children,
The dreadful words have never been spoken, yet! I have a feeling that it is nearing. The teen SS is challenging me....you like to only think that it's his age and he is dealing with whatever is being dealt to him via BM on her visitations. I am not sure if it was said to test me or to irritate me, or what...the words "the reason I took to you so quickly was because you bought us legos".. UGH...right there my heart dropped, after 5 yrs. and thats what you took from me being there picking your father up from at first losing his kids to a manipulative BM and only wanted CS not giving two cents about the kids. May I mind you that when the kids get into trouble or need to talk they come to me. They text me more than their father and mother combined.
Blended Family atmosphere is somewhat decent, every dog has their days. I looked at him saying "Really", he chuckled a little and said "well yeah", I told him "I didn't buy your love, he said you basically did, I told him know and sorry he felt that way." Father recently had discussion about his I don't give a two cents attitude and then brought up over hearing what he had said to me and tried explaining he needs to comprehend people wanting to do things and buy him things because they care and its not a way to gain his love aspect. He told his father he was playing with me, which striked a whole new convo. to be aware of the things he says and how its said and how it may make people feel.
He is also saying this thing where he is staying NEUTRAL... He makes us feel that we are saying things that make him say that to us. YET WE DON'T talk ill mannered about the BM or anything. It comes out of nowhere!!!! He knows we promote him and his sister to speak freely about their mother. We don't make faces we keep the convo. going to make them feel that they can talk freely about her without feeling guilty.
Not sure what to make of this, if anyone has been through the same please feel free to tell me how you handled... if not please feel free to give me your opinion.