My stepdaughter is 15 and is currently giving me all kinds of hell at home. I get so frustrated and have to really bite my lip on a daily basis. She is so negative the whole time and it creates such a bad atmosphere in the house.
She has previously told me that I am taking her dad away from her, and things were much better before I came into the picture. She has said so many mean, ugly and hurtful things to me, and I feel so trapped in the house. I don't want to tell my fiance about all these things, because that would just create another atmosphere in the house.
So, last week she told her dad that she wants nothing to do with me (even though I do everything in the house: cooking, cleaning, taking them to school, etc.). He gave her what she wanted, and told me that I should leave her alone completely - I shouldn't ask her for anything, and she is to do the same.
After he left to take her to school, I went looking for one of my hair clips in her room, and found a notepad on her bed where she had written so many awful things. She is making a point of it to write down something negative and ugly every single day. Even things that are done with care and with no negative intention are turned around to make it appear as if I am doing everything to influence her day-to-day life in a negative way. I haven't confronted her about it, nor have I told her dad about it.
I have been sneeking into her room every morning, and she is literally thinking out stuff to write in there! Her family doesn't help either - they all think that she is the innocent little girl who was given a rough live. She wrote in her book that she hates her life, and that I am the cause of all her unhappiness. Even something simple as asking her politely to please turn down her music or alternatively close her door was turned around to sound like she is allowed to do nothing in the house. Do I confront her or tell her dad about the book, or do I just let it be and carry on in our very unhappy home?