In ‘What the child wants’, the basic idea is that the parents call the shots. Just because a child wants something (calling SM mom, hanging with unsavory friends, eliminating broccoli from their diet), doesn’t mean that the child automatically gets it.
In ‘how to deal with ecs’, BF doesn’t want his daughter to do extra-curriculars during his time. His daughter (and BM) wants to try out for the school dance team, which falls during BF’s time.
I’m just curious – should the daughter try out for the dance team against her father’s wishes?
Should the daughter’s wants to join the dance team overrule her father’s demands that she not participate in extra-curriculars during his time? Is the father being unreasonable, and if so, should the daughter get to make this decision for herself?
I think this brings up an interesting debate – When does a child to get make choices for themselves? What kind of choices do they get to make? If a child is old enough to choose joining a dance team, when is she old enough to make other choices (call SM mom, hang with someone the parents don’t like, and go on strike against broccoli)?
Do kids have any autonomy, or do they have to wait until they’re 18 to make their own choices?
deeds of ordinary folk that keep
the darkness at bay. Small acts
of kindness and love. ❞
― J.R.R. Tolkien, The Hobbit