In âWhat the child wantsâ, the basic idea is that the parents call the shots. Just because a child wants something (calling SM mom, hanging with unsavory friends, eliminating broccoli from their diet), doesnât mean that the child automatically gets it.
In âhow to deal with ecsâ, BF doesnât want his daughter to do extra-curriculars during his time. His daughter (and BM) wants to try out for the school dance team, which falls during BFâs time.
Iâm just curious â should the daughter try out for the dance team against her fatherâs wishes?
Should the daughterâs wants to join the dance team overrule her fatherâs demands that she not participate in extra-curriculars during his time? Is the father being unreasonable, and if so, should the daughter get to make this decision for herself?
I think this brings up an interesting debate â When does a child to get make choices for themselves? What kind of choices do they get to make? If a child is old enough to choose joining a dance team, when is she old enough to make other choices (call SM mom, hang with someone the parents donât like, and go on strike against broccoli)?
Do kids have any autonomy, or do they have to wait until theyâre 18 to make their own choices?
deeds of ordinary folk that keep
the darkness at bay. Small acts
of kindness and love. â
â J.R.R. Tolkien, The Hobbit