BM was put in jail yesterday afternoon for a probation violation and is currently being held indefinitely. (Information from the jail this morning) She's on felony probation, and it's supposed to work where if she violates, even once, even for something stupid and miniscule, she is supposed to have to serve out her entire probation in the penitentiary... Which would be a whopping 5 years. We have primary custody of SS (who will be about 11 when she gets out if she has to do the time), and currently have guardianship of X (BM's youngest son and SS's half brother)... We agreed to take X while she found a job and place to live, etc... This may sound horrible but I didn't sign up taking her youngest that long. DH and I have discussed it... we have innocently opened a line of communication to X's BF and in if in fact BM gets sent to prison, we will take care of X, and walk his BF through the process of proving paternity with the courts (he's not on the birth certificate) and once he's been granted parental rights we will give his son to him. We don't want X to go to the state especially if he has a BP that's willing to raise him... I just feel kind of guilty about handing X over to BF when I know that BM will have a hard time getting him back when she's done with all her time (if she has to serve the 5 years X will be 8 when she gets out...) Is this wrong for us to be making these plans for the worst possible outcome?
on Apr. 27, 2013 at 12:57 AM