Haven't posted in a bit, but I just need to rant a bit. With all the drama, I feel like I have a minute to breathe and say WTF JUST HAPPENED?? I swear, things weren't perfect but they were well on their way. dh and I expected shit to happen, but things were going fairly ok. THAT IS, until I got pregnant. I SWEAR its like OPs lost their damn minds. All of a sudden, BM wanted less time for us, we had to go to court for that, then she called cs and lied about us owing her money, then we had to go to court for that. Then she wanted an increase and for the court to have dh pay her mortgage(I still laugh at this). Of course, we had to go to court for that. Then she went to tell the court the kids weren't happy coming here, had the kids evaluated by a court rep, who found out (finally) that she was alienating them from us and she fucked herself on that one. Then she just started telling DHs family lies and caused a rift between him, his mom, brothers and me. Ugh! Then she started abandoning certain responsibilities. THEN my ex started his shit in the middle of all this. Not paying cs, banning me from buying meds, skipping visitations and showing up late, bouncing checks at the school, telling dd4 she doesn't have to listen to dh. Now I have to go to court with him. I'm not saying things were great, but things were civil on both sides, with the occasional small drama. All the kids were ok with the pregnancy and now with the baby. I just feel like WTF HAPPENED?? The oldest two have separately said they wish OPs would just get over it. SD11 said it in court! Like I said, it's like a moment of calm before I start court on my end. Did anybody else go through this? I mean what did they expect? We are MARRIED! Are we not entitled to have the choice of having children together, so long as the other children are being taken care of in the same manner they were before? We aren't gonna take away from the other 4 to have our own. It's just utter jealousy, bitterness and ridiculousness. And the sad part is, OPs are in relationships. How does that even make sense? Please help me navigate this roller coaster!