SD is going to middle school next year, there's an incoming student parents' night at the school in June. DH can't take that time off, he's taking off an extra day the week before to go to SD's eye specialist and a week later for SD's 5th grade graduation. So, SD and I were going to go to the parents night.
The question here is should I invite BM?
DH and I only know about the parents night because I've been watching the online calendar for the new school. BM could easily do the same thing, she knows what school SD will be going to.
I mean, BM isn't involved with school, she's communicated with SD's current teacher 3 times (the PTC, and the first and third IEP meetings). If DH gives BM the option of taking SD we're never going to get any of the information, and DH is CP, and I am primary care taker who deals with the school a majority of the time. The parents night is mostly for the CP who will be dealing with the school, but technically the right thing to do is make sure BM knows, right?
I'm fairly certain BM and I could sit near each other for an hour and treat each other properly, especially with SD there and numerous other parents (several of which I will know). But, I always get so anxious/stressed when around BM because her behavior/reactions are never predictable.
Would DH and I be horrible if we didn't update BM about the parents night? Or should I just suck it up for SD and BM and tell her?