SM taking a "big" vacation alone? Fair to the skids? Selfish?
I haven't been on a vacation since our honeymoon and I haven't been on even an overnight away since last April other than a week I took to go take care of my mom after a hospitalization.
DH and the kids have gone on a few vacays with his family over the years and the kids have gotten to do some fun trips with their grandparents. DH has also been flying home on the weekends to see the kids since we moved in the fall. I have paid for all of these trips and stayed home to work.
My brother and SIL are currently stationed in Germany. I would like to visit them there and the clock is ticking before their next deployment to Iraq or Afghanistan and then they'll PCS back to the US.
Because DH is flying internationally a lot for work lately and gets to "keep" the frequent flyer miles for personal use, it is very likely that he'll have sufficient miles for me to buy A ticket to Germany. Therefore, my costs for a trip like this would be pretty minimal. No hotel expense, no flight expense, just whatever I would spend doing a little traveling with my brother and SIL. There's no way I could afford it otherwise.
DH is on board with this and identified a week in August when the kids will go visit BM so I will only need to worry about making accommodations for our pets as he'll be out of the country for work. I would really like to go.
DH mentioned this possible trip to his family and the kids today while visiting and I've now gotten email from his mother and BM saying that they think this is unfair and that the kids want to go. (my, word travels fast!) Vacations are for FAMILY they say. We HAD talked about taking the kids if we could afford it, but we can't.
Is this truly unfair to the kids? Is it selfish? I just want to see my brother and have a little break. <shrugs>