sd is 13 and used to live with bm. bm and husband had a terrible nasty divorce where bm accused dh of needing anger management and being a drunk and some other lies. so anyway there custody agreement said that dh had to go to counseling and get a signed letter from a liscensed counselor saying that he was ok to see sd unsupervised.
well bm only made him do the supervised visits for a couple of months and knew that what she had said was wrong and started letting him see her unsupervised he would take her to dinner and the mall and mx races and such.
well dh and i got together 4 years ago and he moved into town. he used to live about 30 min away and i moved in with him. next thing we knew bm was letting dh have sd on his days off and to go camping with us and out of town with us it was nice. well of course they would get into arguments and the first thing out of bms mouth would be "you will never see daughter again" and legally there wasnt anything dh could do about it due to the CO.
so about a month ago bm gets into some very serious trouble and sd and her little sister were brought to our house by dfs (department of family services) we had an emergency court hearing where the judge decided to leave sd with us for the time being and mom can see her supervised and have supervised phone calls with her. well so far everytime we ask sd if she wants to call she immediately says no and there have been 2 visits that have come and gone that sd's sister has gone to but sd says no way
so you ladies think we should try to talk sd into talking with mom or let her do it in her own time?