My DSD has a friend (we'll call her S) who lives with her dad and his gf.
He seems really laid back and awesome.
SHE, on the other hand, is two-faced and snooty.
I smoke cigarettes. Only in my garage, and my children aren't allowed in there.
Well, this friend of my DSD's, who is 7, was walking home from the bus to an empty house. I feel that she is way too young to be staying by herself, so I offered, nicely, to take her to my house on days when neither parent could pick her up from the bus.
It was agreed by S's dad, but from the beginning, S told DSD that her SM doesn't want her to come over because we smoke, so she hasn't been coming over.
I talked to S's dad last month, told him that we only smoke in the garage, so if that was a problem, then it shouldn't be, because his DD wasn't being affected by it.
S came over two times last week, the kids had snack and played in the kids' playroom (where there are a lot of toys!) and just had fun being together outside of school.
On Monday, S tells her that SM has said, once again, that S is not allowed to come over.
So, this woman would rather her precious SD be home alone, at 7 years old, than here, having fun, getting attention and praise.
Stupid, stupid, judgmental woman!
All DSD wants is to have friends over to pla with her.
This is the only girl who has ever been over to play with DSD, and it makes me wonder if DSD's best friend, S, will be coming to her party this summer.
Maybe SM won't let her, dumb bi**h!
My garage is attached, but there is no door directly into my house from it. I have to go outside to get inside.
The SM and I used to talk all the time while we were waiting for the bus. I would smoke while waiting, and talking to her (I always get there early enough for the smoke to disssipate before the bus arrives).
So, she knew I smoked WAY before S ever came over to my house. And didn't seem to have a problem with it.
Yes, I wash my hands after smoking. No, I don't change my clothes.
My house is clean, I am a good mother.
Yes, I smoke. But that is all I do. I never drink or do any drugs.
I smoke in the safest way I know to keep my kids away from it.
Also, if I'm walking down the street and notice a child of any age coming near me while I'm smoking, I cross the street, to keep the child away from it.
I've had parents thank me for doing this. I even make friends of mine do the same if they are smoking, too.
*Plus ETA* S also, at 7 years old, doesn't sit in a car seat.
She sits on the normal seat in the car. She's not much taller than my DSD, maybe ten-fifteen pounds heavier than DSD, and my kids has at least two more years before we would feel comfortable taking her out of her booster.
So, I don't think it's all about the 'saftey' of S comingto a smokers' house, honestly.
So, S's dad came to pick her up from the bus today and I was able to talk with him.
"S told us how you don't want her over anymore because I smoke. I understand completely, and no judgment.
"However, I was just wondering if this is going to affect S coming over for DSD's birthday party?"
"No, not at all. When is her birthday?"
I told him.
"Yeah, S's is..."
"Okay. Cool, So, we'll see her there?"
So, I handled the situation well, I think.
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