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Why does a 13 year old need a SAHM? *Sorry for the rant*

Posted by Anonymous   + Show Post

I understand SAHM's when children are younger, IE not in school or just starting school, but at 13 most children can be left at home for periods of time and spend the majority of the day at school as it is.  So why does a 13 year old need a SAHM?  What is the benefit?  Especially when the mom can't seem to get the laundry done, groceries purchased, or dinner made...

I think it's been used as a cop out to avoid having to get up in the morning and be a responsible adult like everyone else.  It is ultimately an excuse to stay home, be lazy, watch tv, and get fat while someone else supports the child you should be working to mutually support.

Being a SAHM is for mothers that actually care and are attentive to their children's needs.  It's about the child, not the laziness of the mother. 

Sorry...rant over for now...

Posted by Anonymous on May. 10, 2013 at 3:02 PM
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momof2ex1
by Ruby Member on May. 10, 2013 at 5:44 PM
I'm jelly cause I work and I have a hell of a time keeping up with all the schedules. And I hate having to find a ride for my junior high schooler. No more daycare .. It was much easier to be a working mom when she was little. It's more difficult now than ever before. I would stay home if I could. But dh doesn't want to be the only provider bc it puts too much pressure on him to have to work long hours. He wants to be home too.


Quoting Anonymous:

Hmmmm are you going to pick up the kids from school for me? Are you going to help with home work? Are you going to cook the meals? 

The kids schools are 45mins drive time away from where we live they can't just walk home and there is no school busing in this distract.

I get all the house work done so I don't know who you are talking about and I know most SAHM's are the same as me get the shit done.

I think you are just jelly that some of us can be home for our kids and we don't have to worry about them getting knocked up at 12 and 13 years old.

Quoting Anonymous:

I understand SAHM's when children are younger, IE not in school or just starting school, but at 13 most children can be left at home for periods of time and spend the majority of the day at school as it is.  So why does a 13 year old need a SAHM?  What is the benefit?  Especially when the mom can't seem to get the laundry done, groceries purchased, or dinner made...


I think it's been used as a cop out to avoid having to get up in the morning and be a responsible adult like everyone else.  It is ultimately an excuse to stay home, be lazy, watch tv, and get fat while someone else supports the child you should be working to mutually support.


Being a SAHM is for mothers that actually care and are attentive to their children's needs.  It's about the child, not the laziness of the mother. 


Sorry...rant over for now...



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kmur
by Bronze Member on May. 10, 2013 at 6:41 PM
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ok, i havent read all the comments but im a sahm, and not so i can watch tv, be lazy and get fat...we hav 4 kids, 8, 11, 13 and 14...actually the 13 yr old, is the one who needs the adult supervision more than the others, he is sneaky, gets into trouble, and cant be trusted....and some sahm stay at home due to many other reasons such as, financial, only 1 car, maybe they wrk from home and so on...i think imo u are being rude and judgemental, sorry but thats my opinion

Anonymous
by Anonymous on May. 10, 2013 at 6:42 PM
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I have been a sahm since my kids were smaller.Now my youngest is 13 and I am still at home.I definitely thought I would be back to work by now too.

Turns out me being at home still just works out best for our family.Every kid is different.Every family is different.My dh and I still feel its best for our family I am home for now.

My teens love it and so do I:)

 

sarawags
by on May. 10, 2013 at 6:46 PM

I can see why you didn't want to attach any identify to this post and chose to rather use the anon option -

cause it kind of makes you look kind of bad - no offense ... Okay, offense -

but - really - how do you feel/have you ever had - someone else nitpicking the snot out of your life?  Judging this, judging that about it - always looking over your shoulder - watching and waiting for you to mess up just they can then pounce - identify the wrong - and broadcast it out to others?

thats a shitty thing to do to someone else - and in reality a pretty stupid thing to do considering that by doing so you're also opening up the floodgates for others to do the same to you- 

well - maybe you're perfect though - so that's not of concern to you -


sarawags
by on May. 10, 2013 at 6:49 PM

Bullshit sucked me in to an anon post too - 

momof2ex1
by Ruby Member on May. 10, 2013 at 8:21 PM
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My mom was SAHM for 13 years and had to go back to work when I was 2. She worked from then until I was about 29 and she lost her job/laid off. She is now a sahWIFE. She is also a sahgrandma. Like today for example. I had to work but Ds had a party at school for mom's. grandma went. And then she picked up my dd. brought them home and stayed with them until I got home. She was never home when I was a kid. I started staying home alone when I was about 9. She was never home during the summer. She had to work. I think she is making up for all of that time. We are out of the house and my dad is financially stable enough that she can be a house wife. And she gets to do things for us that we can't do because we are working. Like pick up my kids or attend a party. Or go on field trips. Keep them during the summer instead of daycare or being home alone. I would have liked to have had her home when I was a kid but I am so grateful for her now. That she gets to be with my kids now.


Quoting rebeccasmly:

Out of 6 children, 5 of them are teens or almost teens. I am a SAHM and plan on remaining a SAHM until my youngest is out of the house. In fact, DH and I have talked about me never going back to work full time. By the time our youngest is out of the house, we're not going to be young anymore. The talk is now for me to help out with my husband's business and working with some of the charities I have a heart for. Am I not being responsible? I can guarantee you, I am not lazy. In fact, I have a hard time doing nothing. Between home schooling, ECs, church work, charity work and my husband's business, we are extremely busy. Plus I keep my house up, make sure our land is cared for properly, have a large garden and we raise livestock. I know my kids don't need me home anymore but I find joy in staying home with them. As my children near the age of leaving the nest, I am so grateful for the decision to become a SAHM and remain a SAHM.


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momof2ex1
by Ruby Member on May. 10, 2013 at 8:27 PM
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Almost ALL of my daughter (12)'s friends have SAHMs. I am one of a very few that work. I am a firm believer that at least one parent should be at home if at all possible. I would be if I could. So good for you. You are doing right by your kids. They have an available parent at all times. It's ok that parents have to work. An ideal situation is for one to be there. I know I am finding it so difficult to be there for my daughter after school and finding someone to do it for me (other than my mom) because once they can't go to daycare it is hell trying to get them home. We don't live close enough for her to walk and not far enough for a bus... So ... I feel like I'm always having to ask people to help me out and I'm constantly having to take off work for this or that. Which is very stressful.


Quoting Anonymous:

I have been a sahm since my kids were smaller.Now my youngest is 13 and I am still at home.I definitely thought I would be back to work by now too.


Turns out me being at home still just works out best for our family.Every kid is different.Every family is different.My dh and I still feel its best for our family I am home for now.


My teens love it and so do I:)


 


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bbyB10
by on May. 10, 2013 at 9:03 PM
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I do because its a crucial age , where the " my moms at work anyway" I can get away with anything crap starts ! He IS NOT my youngest either but that's my reason and I did not make the sahm decision only for my baby but him too my only son
packermomof2
by on May. 10, 2013 at 9:14 PM
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Quoting bbyB10:

I do because its a crucial age , where the " my moms at work anyway" I can get away with anything crap starts ! He IS NOT my youngest either but that's my reason and I did not make the sahm decision only for my baby but him too my only son


You mean you actually care about your kid and what they are doing even as a teen?  You didn't just decide that at 13 the kid was going to for sure always make good choices and do the right thing and not try to see what he could get away with because you were at work? You didn't think it was the bestest idea ever to leave a 13 year old to his own devices for a couple of hours every day?


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