Dd asked if she 'should' get SM a card for Mother's Day. I said she could if she wanted. She's old enough to decide. I would take her OR she could make one. I let her know it doesn't bother me. She said 'I just wonder if it will help make peace if I give her something'. Maybe she will start liking me if I do. I explained that while I get her point, I also want to point out that we shouldn't have to buy people's affection or love. People like us or love us whether we buy them something or not. Same with friends. We don't buy our friends. It never works out that way. Or ends well.
So I remember hearing that SM day is next weekend and mentioned that I believe stepmom day is next week when she will be with SM and dad. She could make or buy a card and give it to her then.
She said 'never mind it would make her mad if it wasn't ON Mother's Day'. She doesn't like it when I remind her she is a stepmom.
So the point of my post. Does it bother you if a kid gives you a card on stepmom day? Or does it need to be Mother's Day for you to appreciate it? And would it make you happy to get a card? Or would you feel annoyed (for lack of a better word) that mom helped or bought a card for you?
My idea was a nice picture in a card that tells her thank you for being in my life or whatever my daughter decided to put in there. Dd seems to believe it will cause more problems and/or it won't be received well.
on May. 11, 2013 at 1:15 PM