DH has every other weekend, every other holiday, 6 weeks in the summer. He provides all transportation (we live 2.5 hours away), covers insurance. The boys usually ask to spend any extra school breaks with us.
We have a pretty easy relationship with BM, a few bumps over the years :)
Ss1 wants to move in with us, which is fine with us and mom says ok. DH and BM are planning no formal paperwork on this. DH is not going to change CS at all mainly due to the fact that his CS was set many years ago and has never been reassessed. We did a calculator and would pay around the same, so that's stayin put.
My worry is that I think they should at least have something noterized (sp?) stating that both parties agree to xyz. That way she can't come back and say we kept him without her permission.
I know he is 13(will be 14 in July) and he could state his wants to a judge but nobody wants to go that way.
Have any of you been through similar and how did you handle it? Thanks