Hi, I am new to this forum and I am hoping this will help. I am at my wits end, I just got married to a great guy and he has two girls that I am trying my hardest to have a relationship with. I have made it known to everyone involved that it is not my intention to take anyones spot and I am not trying to be mom, but someone they can talk to if they need. My problem is that one of the girls wants nothing to do with me and I am ok with that and give her time to get use to me but then she goes home and says that I ignore her...which I do not I try talking to her and she rolls her eyes and basically tells me to go away. I think that may be solved as I talked to the mom and we are all going to sit down and have an open line of communication. The other problem is that the other girl that has a different mom and all her mom does is run her mouth about me and tells everyone I am mean to the girls and that I am a terrible person. My husband has talked to her and she seemed to stop until we found out that she is now calling the other mom and saying terrible things about me. I want to call her and put her in her place but know that is likely not the right thing to do and my husband thinks it will just make it worse. The big problem is that we live in a small town and other people in town are starting to hear it.
I don't know if I just need to talk to someone to relieve some of the stress or learn ways to let it go but I am struggling right now. I have a hard time not letting what she says get to me because it is hurtful when I am trying so hard.