I think Parrot's post is a great springboard for discussion. She mentioned that at times, she thought for sure that SS would be a serial killer or something...yet he's not.
Time passed, things changed, and it "doesn't matter."
I think it can be really difficult in the thick of things to see the bigger picture.
Would you agree or disagree that with time, being a SM especially becomes easier as you see things playing out?
I know for a fact that for me there are things I really struggled with early on that I look back on now and LAUGH about because OMG...way bigger issues to be had.
It's easy to talk about perspective when you're out of the woods or have gotten further down the line. When you're in the middle of something though, it doesn't feel silly (though it might look so from more seasoned folks). It feels really really important.
I don't think that there's a remedy for it other than time. Experience.
If you compared my thoughts/positions from 3 years ago to where I am now, you'd not believe I was the same person.
Time is a wonderful teacher.
Perhaps we have to be careful and consider that not everyone here has yet had the benefit of time AND consider that those who have had sufficient time might actually be on to something?