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BM is given and inch and takes a mile

I have live with my SO for almost 2 years. Barely a month after moving in BM accuses my SO of serious crimes against their child.. All of which was proven false and she has zero claims to make... They went to court and now we have 50/50 weekly custody. She has beyond any doubt pushed and prodded his family to the point they walk on eggshells to please her. And I do not live a lifestyle that I tolerate dealing with anyone in this fashion.
Now my SO has volunteered for me during BM weeks to have the child dropped off to me in the mornings because his schedule is erratic and she works before daycare is open so that I can drop her off at the daycare once it opens.. This is around 645 every morning. I work until 9 pm every night.
Not sure how I should handle this anymore as now the BM asked to work an extra shift and I agreed to an extra day of early rising. And she forgot to text and let me
Know the shift would not happen. So I was up really early for no reason and honestly sent her a slightly irritated text after she quickly said sorry how she forgot to send the text...
I have seen (text) and heard the horrible things she has called my SO and honestly I keep out of their relationship. I don't know what to do at this point
by on May. 25, 2013 at 4:49 AM
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faerie75
by Platinum Member on May. 25, 2013 at 2:07 PM
Immediately would have told SO no, I don't wish to be depended on. Especially not on her time. She can ask but don't assume.
Chickenhawk13
by on May. 25, 2013 at 2:17 PM
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Oh no... You got duped with the "while you're in the kitchen could you make me a sandwich" type of situation. Thats the first analogy that came to mind.

Foot down honey & while you have the foot down bring your right hand up & extend the pinky finger up in the "let me tell you something" position (thanks Wendy Williams) & tell him he won't put you in that position. She accused him of crimes then she might do that to you.

You don't have to scream in the "let me tell you something" stance but speak firmly with finality.
Ak907localsnob
by on May. 25, 2013 at 3:05 PM
I told him I wasn't going to help during BM times and he said I don't need to help get your kids anywhere then. I think it's time to change a lot of things including who stays in this relationship
Chickenhawk13
by on May. 25, 2013 at 9:00 PM
I'm sorry you're going through this. It's hard. His ex accused him of crimes & that is the biggest cause for concern. What might she pull on you?
Ak907localsnob
by on May. 27, 2013 at 1:43 AM
Not sure what she might pull. I have sons so I fear for them more then myself she would definitely try and sacrifice them for her personal gain
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