SD16 is currently in her fifth mental health placement in six months (heading to her sixth next week). She is making zero progress and has been pulling out more and more manipulative behaviors to try and get what she wants. Fortunately, her main therapist is aware of this.
The latest issue is that SD has become a vegetarian. She wanted to before but was told she would have to research a healthy, balanced diet and what kinds of additions would have to be made to our food budget. We are a large family - five kids - so one person eating an extremely different diet makes a difference. SD was unwilling to even pull up on page on Google for this and dropped it. Now that she has hospitals and cafeterias cooking for her, she is 'living the vegetarian life'. SD is always willing to work on anything when someone else does all the work. I feel that this is another way that SD chooses to pull away from the family while still being the 'poor, poor victim who no one will work with' - this is how therapists have categorized her behavior.
We will not cater to this when she gets home. I was willing to cook 1-2 meat-free meals per week, but am not willing to exclude eggs, cheese, or milk from those. The rest of the tine, she will have to eat meat. When she is able to hold a job and shop for her own foods, she can eat how she likes. Right now, cooking is not even a remote option for her because she is not allowed access to knives. Our house is always well stocked with fresh fruits and vegetables for snacking or adding to meals.
Are we right or wrong? I will add that SD has a history of food rituals and really poor eating habits that were mostly resolved before all the hospitalizations started. They would just flare up during times of stress.