So a tiny bit of history.. Ss and I get along great. He is 50/50 and is here mon, tues all day and wed until 5, and every other weekend. dh and bm switched the schedule up a bit bc ss's mom signed him up for something on Tuesdays so we've changed to mon all day, wed all day and Friday til 5. Now that summer is here he's here all day Monday, Tuesday til 3, all day Wednesday and Thursday til 3. I can not get anything done! He is 11 so he's between being a baby and being able to go off on his own. He's an immature 11 year old, partly because MIL raised him and she just spoiled him. He is constantly in need of attention, constantly wants to do things. I've taken him to the pool the last 4 days and I'm just worn out from him. I have an almost 16 month old as well, so obviously my focus is on him. I feel like I'm going to pull my hair out! Ss doesn't help with anything, he rushes me to get out of the house.. Example: I told him we'd go to the pool around 10:30.. I vacuumed and mopped the whole house and was done by 9:30.. The second he heard the steam cleaner turn off he said "are you ready?".. I told him, no I'm not ready I have a few more things to do.. If he wants to go earlier then he can help me complete some of the easy things.. And he was quiet and didnt say anything and went upstairs.
I do not take on a mother role with him.. I don't discipline him- if I have an issue I need addressed I talk to dh about it and he addresses it with ss. I do the best I can to entertain him but I can't do it at my expense. I'll be in the bathroom and not only my ds is at the door, but our dog is scratching at the door trying to get in and ss feels its ok to have a conversation through the bathroom door. Ok ok, it is comical when looking back at it but at the time I want to flush myself down the toilet!
Ss used to spend a lot of time with MIL but his friends are here so obviously he'd rather be over here. My mom tried to come over 100x this last week to see ds and I kept having to put it off. I feel like a babysitter!
on Jun. 14, 2013 at 9:10 AM