I am a step-mom to 3 wonderful children. They're 3 1/2, 6, and 7 1/2. I love them to death and get to spend quite a bit of time with them as their mother works so even on her 50% of the days we get them. During the summer they're with me all day everyday, their mother picks them up on her nights on her way home from work. And then during the school year on her days she drops them off before school on her way to work. I take them to school and pick them up then she'll get them on her way home from work on her nights. So i am the one responsible for them majority of the time. Which I don't mind, just felt i needed to give a little background to lead up to my question.
I am currently pregnant with my first and so excited. I am due about the second week the the older kids go back to school. When the baby comes I would like special time to bond with him, being a mother is all i've wanted forever. Althought I love my step-children I already feel a different connection to my baby.
Here is the delima i am having. I want to have special bonding, one on one time wtih my new baby when he's born. My mother thinks I should ask if other arrangments can be made for about week for the other children. I like the idea of that so that I can focus on this new part of my life, espcially being my first. But I feel guilty. Like i'm pushing off my children. I'm also worried that the other kids will feel that he's more important to me and that they just become my "step-children" and not mean anything to me anymore.
Any advice or thoughts please! Much appreciated.