So, all this back and forth... we have a little more proof...
I guess, it's not really proof that SS is LIVING with BGM (baby grandma lol) but proof that BM is being dishonest about SS's whereabouts.
BGM and DH worked out a plan for us to pick SS up this Wednesday (DH has to be in our old town for something that day) and keep him untill the 29th. (thats a total of 10 days, a week and a half) BM texts DH tonight and says "so your taking him for the day wensday?" DH tells her the plan to keep him until the 29th. She flips saying he can't have him for ten days. BM has been asking DH about roating weeks for the summer. Now she says ten days is too long?? She says that SS always crys and says he doesn't want to come to our house and that he always crys for her when he's here. DH tells her that he crys for her because he hasn't seen her in so long. He told her SS told us he lives with Nanny and Papa and that his mommy never comes to visit him. (true as shit, he said that last time he was here. he bawled his head off and we tried to call BM but she didnt answer or didnt have minutes on her phone) Then she says "he's 4 and you cant believe everything a 4 yr old says" (oh really? cuz she seems to believe everything SS suposedly says about our house lol) She says she sees him every day and as a matter of fact, hes standing right in front of her. DH asks her to send him a pic of SS holding a paper that says "Happy Father's Day" on it. She replies that she "dont have to send him shit" DH texts BGM asking if she'd talked to BM about the ten days. She says she told her when we were picking up but didnt mention when we were bringing him back. DH tells BGM that BM is now upset and telling him he can't take him at all. BGM says dont worry about it. And tells DH he is welcome to call SS and talk to him. He calls and talks to SS for a min (he's 4, short attn span). SS says he wants to come live with us. (no, I'm not getting my panties in a bunch over this lol, I just think its funny and a long cry from him telling BM he never wants to come to our house again) SS wishes DH a Happy Daddy's Day and says he has to go to bed. BGM gets on the phone and says not to worry about BM, she is being ridiculous, and this will all blow over by Wednesday.
So, we have BM claiming SS was there with her, and Nanny telling DH he can call and talk to him. This discredits BM somewhat, I'm hoping.