I need to get some advise from all Moms or grandmoms out there.
Here's a little background: My husband and I have been married for 15 years. When we started dating we had four children between the two of us; 2 girls were mine and 2 boys were his. During the course of relationship, my husband adopted my two daughter, after their father signed over his parental rights to avoid having to pay child support. Our children are now 24, 23, 22 and 19. We are now grandparents to two wonderful grandsons. Our daughter is a mother of a 4 year and they live at home with my husband and I. The other children do not.
So, here is my problem: My oldest step son, who is 23, has been very phyically with our grandson, who is 4, and lives with us and our single daughter. So, this past weekend, I came from work and was standing out front with the neighbors and my 23 year old step son. While standing there talking, my 4 year old grandson went up and hit my 23 year old step son. My step son then lifted my grandson up in the air and threw him on the ground, head first. I was so furious, as this behavior has happened in the past. I immediately checked my grandson, who ran to his mother in the house crying. I then turned my attention to my grown step son and yelled at him. My step son said that he was hit and was not going to take that from a 4 year old. He then hoped in his truck and took off. Even the neighbors that were present during this could not believe their eyes and said that he actions were not justifed.
I phones my husband, who was not home yet from work and explained what had just happened. Instead of defending our 4 year old grandson and he said that it sounds like the 23 year had a reason to hit our grandson. My husband did call the 23 year olf, only to be laughing with him and insuring him that he was the victim in this. So, two day later was Father's Day and my step son called his father early in the day and said that he will not be able to make our Father's Day lunch. My other step son, 19, followed suit and did not attend as well. It as now been a few days since this occurred and my husband still refused to speak to me. He tells me that I am making something out of nothing. My husband has now decided not to speak with out grandson, who lives with us.
I am so furious with my stepson and don't know what to do. Am I making more of out of this? I need some advise. Please reply.