SD8 lives with us 95% of the year and sees her mom during breaks from school. During the summer she is here every 2 wks for 2 wks. Last week SD saw an old pack of Dh's cigerettes and asked me to throw them away. I informed her that they were gone but I would throw it away. She in turn told me that while she was at her mom's the week before she saw BM, Bm's boyfriend, Sd's uncle and uncle's girlsfriend rolling and smoking skinny cigerettes. She told me they smell weird and they are in yellow and red paper. I told her that is not healthy and she told me that her mom says it makes her feel better.
Dh has talked to bm about it before. Pot is illegal in Missouri and although we can't say much when sd isn't there however when she it I would hope that BM would have enough common since to not smoke around her kid. I guess we are wrong. Dh said he doesn't know what to do because it doesn't sound like BM is really listening to Dh. So I called a therapist and told her the situation. I said told her that SD would be best if dh was in the room at first and she'd be fine playing in the waiting room or in a corner while she talks to dh about the situation. She sounded very concerned and kept telling me that getting professional documentation was the best way to go about this. I told her that Sd needs these visits with her mom because SD is on the Autism spectrum and deals with a lot of abandonment issues with bm. So she needs that time with her mom but I want her to be safe while she is there and I'm not sure that smoking pot infront of a kid who is almost 9 and special needs is a safe enviroment.
I just want to know what to expect tomorrow. Is the therapist legally required to call DFS? Will she tell us before she does that? We have seen a therapist before with her but never because of her mom's illegal activity.