I'm a step mom of 4 and BM of 2.
So here's the story.. Step child #3 is a 24 year old mom of 2: drama queen like her mom and siblings. Claims to have been cutting herself for 11 years now and, molested 15 years ago along with her 2 sisters to a judge during custody hearing and lost custody of her 1 year old today. Step #3 has been living with BD and I for 11 years now on and off (She eloped at 18 and divorced 2 years later and came back here). She got upset when judge claimed she was unsafe for her child due to her history of cutting. So I agreed and I told her that she lost child due to her "claiming to have been cutting for over 11 years which isn't true" She proceeded to "GO OFF" on me about not knowing her and the molestation was brought up, AGAIN. I tried to calmly talk to her and then forcing her to talk (Grabbed her arm so she couldn't leave room) about these accusations which NO famiy member knew of the cutting and BD adimitly claims the molestation is false. I told her we can't help her if she doesn't talk to someone in the family, we aren't mind readers so start talking ! She ended up leaving the house within 20 minutes. BD comes home and asks what happened. I told him I'm tired of a new accusation and the fact of the old accusation continuing to come up and NO ONE'S ADDRESSING THEM !!! These issues don't get solved when not delt with. ! Now I'm an ass ( No surpries here) for "having to always be in controll, and couldn't wait till he got home to talk it all out". Even though #3 was talking about court documents to me.
Back story: BM is alcoholic, coke-pot head whom feels entitled and has raised her 4 kids to feel the same way.. BM rarely saw kids when they moved in with us 11 years ago by their (kids) choice. Step kids are constant lying, lazy, promiscuous, narcissistic, exageraters. I have rules in house and BD agrees with them but I am the constant disiplinarian and overseer bad guy. BD works fulltime as do I. SO...... was I wrong to tell her she told the judge what she did and screwed herself and... Told my husband to basically start getting involved with your kid's problem. I'm thinking a divorce is long overdue.