I feel awful for saying this, but I really hate being a stepmom. I've been doing this for four years now, and my step kids are only five years old. So even though I've always been around, it's still so hard and such a thankless job. The worst part is how unsupportive my husband is. He doesn't get it and he expects sunshine and rainbows. My son is out of state visiting family, and so it's been easier for me to go out and find something to do when the step kids are here rather than deal with the frustration they cause when they're here. I know they're just children but they're obviously being coached by their mother and grandparents to ignore what I say and only listen to their dad.
Sorry for such a long and negative post. I'm just at the end of my rope and I'm sure others have felt this same way.