How Do We Move on From the Past--Never Took SKs on Vacation
DH and i did not take his kids on vacation with us when they were growing up. We had problems with SD not wanting to visit us EOW so my DH did not think it fair to take SS on vacation with us if SD wouldn't come too. As a result for the 13 years they were growing up, DH and I vacationed with my DS and parents and never took his kids. I always knew it wasn't right, but I didn't interfere because this was DH's decision, and he would not confront our family issues no matter how many times I pleaded with him to do so. DH now has a very strained relationship with his DS and wants to try and repair the relationship. The relationship with DD is good. She holds no grudges. We asked DS and his fiance to go with us on a trip a couple of years ago and he agreed, but the next day changed his mind saying, "it was a pity invitation." How do we get past this issue of past vacations? Even though I don't feel this was my fault, I still feel guilty at all the trips we took that excluded DH's kids......Disney World, California, Tennessee, Florida, cruises, Washington, D.C., Myrtle Beach, Arizona, the Grand Canyon, San Diego, Wyoming, and other really nice places that any kid would have loved to see.