SD has some special needs (which is pretty obvious if you've ever read any of my posts). These special needs require supplies that are used daily. SD wears contacts (requiring contact solution), SD is supposed to patch her eye every day for a minimum of 2 hours to help strengthen her other eye, SD wears pads all the time (she has an incontinence problem and is seeing a urologist Thursday for it).
Should we be sending eye patches for SD to use each day she's with BM? Should we be sending enough pads for the week for SD to use while she's with BM? If SD is nearly out of contact solution should we send the full bottle in the bathroom cabinet, or the partial one that will need to be replaced this week?
The "I have to make sure everything is perfect for SD" part of me is saying, send it all, regardless of the cost to us and the continous enabling of BM's laziness.
On the other hand, it's BM's responsibility as a parent to make sure that she can provide SD with the things SD needs.
We sent everything along with SD that she would need. Now we just get to be hopeful that it all actually gets done.