I'm about to remarry. My fiance has a 7 year old son that was recently diagnosed with ADHD and Oppositional Defiance Disorder. The boy (I'll call him Joey) is extremely aggressive both verbally and physically toward adults and other children. He hurts my children constantly, has no empathy, and everyone avoids him at all costs. His grandmother won't even be alone with him. I have spoken with my fiance (as calmly as possible) about the verbal and physical aggressiveness Joey shows towards everyone (except him). The problem? He thinks there is no problem! He actually thinks Joey is "normal" and other children are "sissies". He gets so mad at me or anyone else who tries to talk to him about the issue. Joey is in a special program at school for children with behavioral problems. My fiancé thinks the school is picking on Joey. I just found out (from Joey's brother) that Joey calls his mother and his sister "bitch" and that he was permanently expelled from the school bus for pulling his pants down in front of the children while the bus was moving! My fiancé told me none of this. I feel like my fiance deceived me. He didn't give me all the information about Joey and the seriousness of the situation (how could he not think a 7 year old who calls his mother a "bitch" and pulls down his pants on the bus is not serious?) I moved forward in this relationship and brought my children into this situation without knowing what I was walking into. My children are young, impressionable and vulnerable. And now I'm in a position where it's almost impossible to walk away (moved from a different state, took no alimony from my previous marriage, haven't worked outside the home in 5 years, bought a house with him, etc). I'd appreciate any constructive advice.