If you don't want to read the whole story then just scroll down to the bold, it sums it up, lol.
BM came to DH and I at the end of May, she said she was leaving her husband. It was "bad" she said and she needed out. Said it wasn't healthy or stable. She wanted the boys to stay with us until she could get everything together. She had said she would be finding a place to live. Said she would give us back the child support that DH pays.
Fast forward to June. School has let out and the boys are with us. DH is never home so I am the one caring for them (as I had agreed to do so that she could make life better for them). The boys were extremely disrespectful at first, but DH addressed it and everything got better.
DH gets paid and in our state CS is automatically garnished. BM receives the CS the next week. When asked for it she says, "There is no way they cost you that much being there and we need it to pay bills." Two days later they (BM and SF) take the boys as well as her SK's on vacation.
During this time BM has been pissed off at me because I "don't answer" her texts fast enough for her. For the previously mentioned visitation she sent a text to my phone that said, "SF is on his way" which I did not see. She called my phone and bitched at me that SF was at my house and I was not. I informed her that I was running errands and that no one had informed me that the pick up time would be different than previously established (6:00 pm). She said SF would wait, I said ok. I continued my Walmart outing. When I got to the car, I notice a text that says, "We will just pick them up on our way out of town." I check my phone, her phone call came 20 minutes after the first text.
DH addresses the issue, informs her that we need more notice than that.
Yesterday I get a text from SF, "I'm on my way back to town, I will be back in about 2 hours, can I stop by to see the boys?" ... I forwarded the text to DH and waited for a reply from him. I did not receive one. DH came home about an hour later and the boys had left the house without permission, by this time I had completely forgotten that SF had sent a text. DH went looking for the boys. Once he found them and got them back to the house we got busy discussing with them why they can't just leave the house (which seemed strange because we are already mostly through the month and have never had this issue before).
SF shows up and knocks on the door. DH is talking to the boys so asks that I go and let him know that they are busy. I do so. SF is visibly pissed off and says, "That works" and leaves. BM shortly after sends DH a text, "He gave you plenty of notice and then drove all the way over there!" ... a small fit ensues.
YSS informs us that SF is abusive towards them. Hits and kicks him without warrant. He had discussed living with us at one point and when asked why he told us that it's because of this. OSS tells us it's "just playing." YSS misses his mom though and wants to be with her so no longer wants to live with us.
So ... HOW THE HELL does it cost her so much to "care for them" yet there is "no way" it would cost us that much?!?! (nvm that she has even told us the boys have no clothes at her house and that they eat frozen pizza every night that she gets FREE from work yet she has her hair and nails done) She makes more in CS each year than I did the last year I was working (full time, 40 hours a week).
Forget the CS though ... I was TRICKED into being her free babysitter while she "made life better" for the boys. While she got them out of the house that was so "bad." Only to be told that she wasn't actually going to make it better for them at all.
Then she thinks I (and DH) will drop everything because she sends a text that either isn't seen or isn't a priority at that moment?
AND (I forgot to add it into the story above) she sends DH a text that says "Be prepared for your boys to hate you"
AND THEN we find out that SS is being hit, he is being kicked, and he is being hurt because SF is "playing" even after SS tells him he doesn't want to play like that?