To follow my post from yesterday, DH and BM decided Monday night that YSS needs to be "kept away" from his girlfriend. YSS is 16, GF is 13. BM is a teacher, and does not work during the summer. DH and BM decided that on the days YSS is with DH, he will stay with BM during the day so she can monitor him. This was all decided prior to BM's decision that YSS will move in with her.
SO, yesterday, DH drops off YSS at BM's house. When he calls to go pick him up at the end of the day, he finds out that YSS has his cell phone back (that DH took away because YSS snuck out of the house Saturday night), and that BM let YSS go to the girlfriend's house. So DH had to go to the girlfriend's house to pick him up! This is ONE DAY after BM thinks that YSS and the GF need to be kept apart! ONE DAY!
THEN come to find out, BM wants to send YSS to an $800 music camp this summer, to get him away from GF! That was her reason - to put some space between YSS and GF! OK - REALLY?? You want to put space between them but you allow him to go to her house?? And, to top it off, she convinced DH's dad to pay for half of the camp!
How in the world is DH supposed to parent his kids when their mother does this stuff? This is not an isolated incident. This is how it's been forever with her. It is things like this that make DH think maybe it is best if he allows BM to have full custody of YSS.