DH just finished his 4th trial with BM. Every single time DH has tried to settle with BM to no avail. Every single time BM dragged the lawsuit out months and months, a year or a year and a half. And DH has won every single time. DH has full legal and physical custody of SKs, they only see BM 1 week a year, supervised.
I've been in SKs life for 6.5 years, they are doing well, they've had a lot of therapy and DH has really worked to get them to where they are today (with my help :)).
I really don't care that BM does not pay CS, she never did, even when it was ordered. I don't care that BM never visits her kids or offers to see them even when she is in town. I just can't stand that she sues DH over and over with what are basically lies.
For example (and this is just a small example because its just a motion, not a full blown out trial) she just filed a motion saying she doesn't get her twice-a-week calls with the SKs. This is a blatant lie and we have phone records to prove it. But we still have to defend it, which involves a lawyer, which involves money and time, and its all based on a LIE!!
The courts have tried to help defer her from suing by slapping BM with DH's lawyer fees but she doesn't and won't pay and the latest judge told DH's lawyer that he can't make her pay before she tries to sue him again. Where is the justice here?
I find myself so pissed off and angry about these law suits that I can't stand the mention of BM at all. DH texted her the other day for SSs picture of the first day of camp and I flipped out. Then DH was talking to me about the 'phone' motion and I flipped out again.
OK, maybe I'm wondering how I handle all this and maintain my sanity. I really, really HATE this woman and I've never ever felt this hostile toward anyone before in my life. I don't like what its doing to me so much that I am considering that we just separate so I can just be away from crazy people.