Do you think that it's ok for a step parent to call a step child their son or daughter or let another person continue to believe that their step child is their biological child if
1. the step child has expressly stated that they want their step parent to do so
2. as long as it is NOT in a setting where it is important that it be known that the step child is not the biological parent - for example in the case of school, medical care ,etc.
3. as long as it is not in a situation where calling them such would inevitably cause a lot of confusion/awkwardness later on. For example if SM took the child to a birthday party for a kid at school and referred to the child as their son/daughter and then later in the classroom the parent of the birthday child meets BM and is like "oh, I though such and such was her/his mother".
I'm talking about just out and about - the park where you strike up a conversation with another mom, craft time at the library, the waitress at the restaurant, the cosmetologist cutting the child's hair, etc.
Do you think it's ok or no?