This topic comes up often enough on this board and there is a lot of debate.
CSMs (or CSDs) with a BM living far away and therefore having limited visitation OR with an absent BM are raising their skids. Every decision that they make now involves their SKs too. Any time a CSP wants to do something or go somewhere the SKs are a factor.
My day would be a lot different if my SKs did not live with me. I am cooking for them, cleaning up after them, taking them places, arranging their ECs and interacting with their friends and friends parents. I'm not watching anything inappropriate on TV, I can't go to the gym anytime I feel like it. A fun day for me is tossing a ball with SS at the pool.
I love having a large family with DH (I have 2SKs and 2bios, all living with me and DH) but our life is crazy, we live on a tight budget and I'm so busy at times I don't get much time to myself. Its a sacrafice but one that is done willingly for my family and out of love.
So why is it that there is so much negative feedback on this board about CSMs having issues with BMs? I'll use the example of the CSM who just posted about BM emailing every day and the majority of the response (or 100% of the response as I saw it) was telling the CSM to deal or be happy that BM wanted to be involved. If BM wants to be involved with her kids (or BD) then they would see them on a regular basis and BE in their lives.
BMs who have moved away (or BDs) to have different lives do so at their choice, they decided to not RAISE their kids. Those of us doing the raisng of kids deserve respect and consideration.