Where to begin, I met my DH about a year after he left his ex and took the kids. This was due to her drug and alcohol addiction, cheating, bar hopping and refusing to take care of the kids so DH could work to support the family. Anyway we met and started seeing each other, at that time they had agreed on a custody agreement of 6 months with one then 6 months with the other as long as she could get and stay clean. I know, what a stupid agreement, so she calls him one day and says I am going to the methodone clinic staying clean, living with family, and have a job. So he agreed to let her keep them for her alloted time. Mind you there was no custody agreement in place at all, so about 4 months or so in she calls and says that DH has to come get them cause she is completely strung out again and can't even feed them. Fast forward 6+ years, she has been in jail 7+ times, and in prison 3 times she is currently in prison. She has seen the kids 2 or 3 times in the 6+ years. This kids barely know who she is and she is never willing to get clean and stable for them, she has never paid a dime in support nor in any other way. DH wants to take her rights he thinks over 6 years is more than enough time to decide to put your children first. BTW I have helped raise these children since they were 2 and 3, and yes they call me mom. But I feel like if he starts a court process to remove her rights that we are just opening a door better left alone. The old saying is don't start no trouble and there won't be no trouble. So just wanted some opinions of what others think, I am sure there are some here that are or have been in the same situation.
on Jun. 29, 2013 at 6:49 PM