Is it normal step child behavior or is it more serious?
My boyfriend has a 7 year old daughter. Overall she is very happy lovely 7 year old little girl but she also has some major troubles. I don't want to make a big deal out of them but as I am the one who deals with it all the time, I am starting to get concerned that there might be more going on than just normal behavior problems.
lets start with her memory. She struggles to remember the most simple things. For example, she has to clean up her meal time dishes after each meal. She can never remember to clean up her cup as well as her plate. And if there is still liquid there she can not remember what to do with it. She struggles to remember when I ask her to do something. For example, she was told to put the groceries on a specific table in the house when she helped bring them in from the car. When I made it in with my load she was standing there holding the groceries because she didn't remember where they needed to be out even though no more than 1 min ago she was told.
when it is time to leave and I say ok get ready to go, she struggles to understand what that means. I have to ABC it out for her. Put your stuff away, clean up your area ( and tell her what that means) crayons in the bucket, papers away, wipe the table, fix table cloth. She then has to be told to put her shoes on. Now I can understand having to say put your shoes on but I have to say go get socks, out those on our feet, get your shoes, put those on your feet, tie them. Brush your hair and so forth.
Now for homework time, this summer she is going to summer school because she is struggling with reading. It will start on Monday back with BM in Wisconsin. She has been told by her teachers that she has to read one book a day and write a sentence or two about it to help her be ready for summer school. Every time we sit down to do this, the tears come out the shouting and the pouting and saying she misses mommy and wants to go back (we have only had her for just over two weeks now). She is fine the rest of the time. I have tried to make it fun and have pulled out all my teacher tricks but she will have none of it.
Finally lying. She never tells the truth. You can not take what she says as true unless you see it yourself. I know all kids lie but tis is redicioulious, it is so bad that she will lie about wetting the bed in the morning even though we can tell that she has wet the bed. (That is another issue altogether that we are working on.)
any suggestions or help would be greatly appreciated. I think that she either has severe ADHD or maybe even is somewhere on the spectrum but I don't want to jump there if this is normal and she will grow out of it. But for my sake I hope that it is sooner than later cause I am not sure how much more of this I can take.