I'm the full-time caregiver of my 3yr old SD, whom my husband has full custody of. My SD sees her bm for supervised visitation every other weekend and wed night. Btw- I get along just fine with bm the majority of the time. I have always been pro-spanking, always with the assumption that my discipline choices would pertain to my own bio children. My husband doesn't agree with it, and the bm has given me her blessing to spank my SD only in the event that she does something really bad/disobedient to deserve it. They are both total pussies regarding discipline of all kinds, and are not around her near as much as I am. Since she was put into bf's and my care almost 2 years ago, I've grown EXTREMELY close with my sd, and have done a stellar job keeping/getting her behavior close to perfect....in my care. Granted, she acts like the toddler that she is at times, trying my patience to the highest degree, but in general shes just naturally a good/ easy kid. However, over the past few months, she has started talking back ( naturally more verbal), not listening, and just acting out in general, for many reasons I'm sure. Of course we use time-out as our first-line punishment, and more often than not, just the threat of it gets her in line. BUT,she has more frequently been behaving in ways that I truly feel warrants a pop on the butt, but my husband does not agree. I have spanked her only once in the past when she swung at my face in anger, which, after explaining the event to them, both bio rents agreed it was deserving. So, I'm just curious as to how any of you SMS out there, whom are the caregiver of your skids often enough to face this same dilemma, have handled this problem. Btw-I have no bio kids, and my husband has no other kids living in the home, so my SD is the only kid we have. Advice, please?
on Jul. 5, 2013 at 10:47 PM