I see that some of you have issues with the skids not listening or not respecting you. And your DH either does or doesn't step in and make them show you respect.
I guess I don't get it. If I really had an issue with something big, I would have DH deal with is all together.
But I treat SS just like I would any other kid in my home. My kids, my friends kids, my kids' friends, my sister kids, etc.... You take care of your own shit. SS will sometimes get up from the table and I will remind him to take care of his dishes and will tell me to do it. Well, I'm not going to cry to DH about it. I tell the little bugger right then and there "I'm not doing it. You're old enough to take care of your own stuff, man." If he still gives me problems I tell him he can sit there at the table until he is ready to take care of his own dishes. If he gets up from the table I will make him go back to the table. If it keeps happening I keep being persistant. I don't look at it as dicipline. But I'm not going to let a child disrespect me in my own home. I really don't give a shit who's kid it is. If BM wants to throw a fit about it, she can waste her time and energy being mad.