So, DH's caseworker contacted him today and let him know that she spoke to BM's employer and the employer agreed that she'll start sending the child support payments to the state with BM's next pay day (which is July 25th). The caseworker said she had just spoken to the employer this week.
Well, yesterday SD was talking about how BM was going to quit her job. Interesting that BM is talking about quitting her job as soon as CS enforcement has tracked down her employer. BM's support is only set to $148 a month.
So, we'll see what happens come July 25th or so.
BM called ME today, I was at DD's occupational therapy appointment and couldn't answer, but I texted her back.
Me: I'm at an appt with DD, I can't talk, but I can text
BM: I am wanting to talk about child support when you have a moment
Me: I'm super busy today, I'm not sure when I'll have time to talk, but you can text me and I can get back to you ASAP
BM: OK the CS enforcement gal I talked to stated that you do not have to collect the child support. You just have to get a form from them and check box 2 and send it back... if you did this it would not affect the benefits that you want to recieve from DSHS (welfare)
*Note DD and SD get medical through the state
Me: I don't know about that. I didn't talk to anyone at their office, I can't, I'm not a party to the case.
BM: I can not afford to have child support come after me... I do not make much money and if child support is after me they will take away my license I just got off the phone with them and was informed by them, I know BD would have to settle this issue on his day off.
Me: I can tell DH all of this and he can figure it all out
BM: That sounds fine I am just trying to figure this out as soon as possible because if I lose my license then I will not be able to make any money to live off of.
Here's the thing, when DH first got custody of SD he agreed that he wouldn't go after CS because BM was going to be helping with SD, taking ALL of her parenting time, AND providing for SD in her home. Then earlier this month the state contacted DH and I saying that he HAD to enforce CS for SD due to SD's and DD's medical through the state (it's to supplement our private insurance that doesn't cover all of their therapies). DH filled out the paperwork and CS was set to a whopping $148 a month.
I called DH and told him everything BM said via text (why she couldn't contact him is beyond me) he said, "No, I'm not letting her off the hook on this. She didn't care when she lied about how much she made so I would pay more. I still had to find a way to support my family and pay child support and I did it while paying out over twice what she's ordered to pay. If she can't afford it she needs to budget better or get a better job. I can't keep supporting SD at our house and then buying double of everything so SD can have what she needs at BM's house. Hell, I have to send body wash and shampoo so my kid can F***ING bathe at her mother's house."
So, DH gets to email BM that he's not OK with letting this slide. Honestly, I agree with him. You support your child whether they live with you or not. But, this decision is on him.
So, I did a bit of research, and apparently BM can fill out a form called Statement of Resources and Expenses and they can reduce the amount they take for past due support based on her income and expenses. If what she claims is true, that paying $148 a month makes her unable to live, then she shouldn't have any trouble getting a reduction in the amount of past due support that is taken from her check.
I'm not sure if we should send the link to the form over to her or not. She's been so busy trying to get OUT of paying at all, that she hasn't even tried to work with them on finding an amount that works for her budget.