DH recently had yet another court date because BM was once again asking for more money. I have one SD who is fantastic and I love her to death. She's a great kid. Good news is that the judge denied her request but we do have to go back in August for a trial. We'll have to see what happens. My SD is on FB which we totally disagree with, her BM signed her up when she was 10. We only found out because she popped up on my account under people I may know. We expressed our concerns but it doesn't matter, BM will do whatever she wants. We have SD 47% of the time, pretty much an even split. We got the FB password information and decided if we couldn't stop her from having the account we would monitor it on a regular basis... and so we did. About four months ago we signed onto her account to check things out and saw some posts her mother made on her own account. Now anyone who has a FB account knows if you post something on your page, your friends can see it. Well she is friends with SD on FB so we saw what she posted. She posted that DH and his cum guzzling babysitter(that would be me) are assholes. They owe me more money and don't want to pay me. Well as soon as I saw that I immediately changed SD FB password. I told her we saw something inappropiate and no longer wanted her on FB, SD is now 12. She understood and since she's on instagram more now, FB wasn't such a big deal. She didn't see the post but I was so upset that BM would post that about me. Wouldn't most BM's be happy that their child has a step parent who loves them like their own? I cannot believe that a mother would speak that way about their child's step parent. We contacted our attorney who contacted her attorney and told her to take down the post. I'm assuming she did. I am so tired of the drama and dealing with someone who is completely irrational. It's so discouraging somtimes to know I'm going to have to deal with this person for the rest of my life. So does anyone have any advice or is anyone going through anything similar? I know the usual advice, put SD first.....etc. I always do that. I guess I'm looking for some coping mechanisms or something. Any advice would be appreciated. Thank you!!