If so, do you ever feel left out being the only one that's not part of the family? How do you handle it?
I don't have children of my own, not my choice. SD is 12 and I share in as many experiences as I can. I go to her extracirricular activities, etc. Your husband, you and your step children are your family, you're part of that. I think if you always wanted children and can't have them it can be difficult and you can have that feeling of I wish I could have my own but at some point, you will be okay with it. Just remember you are part of the family.
I was a step mom for a few years with no kids of my own until I had one last year. I felt very left out at first like I was just the live in nanny or something...even though my stepkids were very accepting of me. Having one of my own really seemed to make us more complete.
I'm a CSM whom is childless by choice. I have a great relationship with SS (who is now now 19). I'm putting him thru college and have supported him financially since he was 12 (BM has never paid child support and DH's career was hit HARD by the downturn in the economy). SS is very appreciative and tells me all,the time that I've made a difference in his life. I definitely feel 100% part of the family and I'm sure that it has everything to do with being a CSM with a fairly uninvolved BM. I also refused to allow anyone to dictate the rules in my home other than me and DH. All of that really does make a difference.
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