So my oldest son is 10 and Ive never allowed to have a video game nor have i allowed him to play at friends houses. I decided that I would get him his first console when I felt he was ready for it and I would control the games, and amount of time spends playing. Awhile back I mentioned to him that he would PROBABLY be allowed to have one at 10 depending on his maturity level (this was two years ago). My freakin kid took this to mean he WOULD be getting one at 10. So now that hes 10, he wants to know where his xbox is. I already decided that yes, I will be buying him one, but it will be after he recieves his 1st report card and I see how hes starting off the new school year. So Tuesday he casually mentioned that he has a new xbox SM bought him and sure enough, he played for hours which was my biggest concern.
Now, I like SM and all but she is literally ALWAYS buying things for them. Any and everything they want. She spoils my kids to the point of ridiculous. However since its always been things like shoes, clothes, books, etc (small items) I dont really say much of anything but "oh, thats cute" or "that looks adorable on you" but on the inside Im thinking oh my god, i really want them to earn things.
Dad says Im trying to control his house and our kids and blah blah blah its none of my business if he plays video games at thier house all weekend blah blah fuckin blah. I can tell my son that he is not to play the game over there but for 45 mins a day and I KNOW he will listen to but Im so tired of being the bad guy. And i fear pushing my kids away and being seen as some overbearing shrew. Is there any way i can get dad and sm on the same accord with me? Or is that unfair and controlling? When he doesnt make them shower everyday, i look the other way. when he feeds them freaking sugar for breakfast, I look the other way. Now Im controlling? Tell me if Im overreacting, I can take it. Its no secret Im hard on them but I would be more than willing to bend on some things but playing video games all day? Unacceptable