My issue is this my soon to be step daughter is 3 came back this weekend and said this "my mom said you are stupid I don't have to listen to you because are nothing. She said her and daddy are not married because I you" her dad and I were very shocked cause she has never never treated me like this, she had been excited for the wedding and really always affectionate and close with me. She i lovable and a cuddlier with me and this past visit she was not the child she was when she won't back, mind you she only spent two days with her mom. The truth is my fiancé and her mom were Never married, they split before I even met my fiancé. This baby momma has never made an effort to be there for her daughter since I came into the picture, she has never held a conversation with me and has only invited me once to be around her and personally I think it was just to see what I looked liked. She consented blames me for them going to court which yes I will take the blame for that! She blames me for losing her daughter which I will not take the fault for. She walked all over my fiancé made him take his daughter when ever any hour of the night, spent her entire paychecks on toys and then would make him pay for half cause she needed money. He gave her child support what the state required but she wanted more. We have had her in dance for a yer now and she has only show up to one class and hasn't paid for any of her dance tuition or dance materials, but yet I'm the bad person When I have done nothing but accept and live her child. I now she is 3 and what she said is a repeat of what her mother told her but I'm hurt and upset and feel like right now I need to back off from her but how do I do that without hurting my fiancé and making it seem like I don't care for the child when I do but at this point she wants nothing to do with me anymore. My fiancé can't bring this issue up with baby momma since the lawyer advised him to have no more communication with her only text when he is picking her up an dropping off because she goes crazy on him. I'm at a loss and torn because I love my little family but it seems for my step daughters sake I have to leave her be and hope her mom stops.