Just curious, so many of us are not Ok with BM in our home when we are not home. What about our ex's?
And really, at some point most kids have keys to their home so unless you specifically tell kids that their mom or dad are not allowed in your home, what can you really do about it? DH and I are out of town every other weekend. Any of the 5 kids and two ex's (BM and BF) could come in our home when we aren't there.
So if BM or BF really had nefarious motivations, they could easily get in your house. Why nt just invite them to do so?
I used to care about BF coming in my home, he just couldn't accept it wasn't his home anymore and would just start going through the mail. I wish I could have been more compassionate at the time but fuck that, I hated him so I made a big old bitch fest about him not being allowed in.
At this point, I just don't care. Really about either of them. I would actually prefer not to be there if BM had to come over for some reason.