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Help stepmother find a good therapist

Posted by on Jul. 18, 2013 at 8:21 AM
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I am resolved to find myself a good therapist...but, how do you go about finding a stepmother therapist? Just found this great link that offers some helpful advice. http://www.huffingtonpost.com/rachelle-katz/stepmother-advice-how-ste_b_609206.html

If anyone else can share some insight on ways to find a therapist that can help someone struggling with stepmother issues, I would truly appreciate all input.

by on Jul. 18, 2013 at 8:21 AM
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baparrot2
by Platinum Member on Jul. 18, 2013 at 8:26 AM

Don't waste the money. Here is what the therapist is going to tell you, but will take months for you to get.

You have no control over how he treats his adult daughter. You only have control over you.

SMInProgress
by on Jul. 18, 2013 at 10:07 AM
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Just do what most of us did. Look up a therapist closest to you that will take your insurance & has plenty of experience in blended family issues.  If a therapist isn't right for you, after a while, change & find another therapist & do again till you find one you feel makes sense exclusively to you.  DH is 40 years into this, I say you'd benefit from a good therapist that will help you let go of things you have no control over (that's one of the hardest things for a woman to do :).

teaching_kids
by Bronze Member on Jul. 19, 2013 at 7:57 AM
Find a certified stepmom coach. That's a direct hit.

I would never go to a therapist for help in the stepfamily dynamic. Ever. And I love a good therapy session!!!

Unless your therapist is a BM and a SM...it's like going to a priest for marriage advice. Just my opinion.
bertaboo1
by Silver Member on Jul. 19, 2013 at 8:15 AM
Lol totally love this...so much truth. ..some people need help to find that inner peace though. If you had struggles in life...any type of struggle. ..did you just snap out of it? Or did you search for peace and resolution? How did you do it?


Quoting baparrot2:

Don't waste the money. Here is what the therapist is going to tell you, but will take months for you to get.

You have no control over how he treats his adult daughter. You only have control over you.


baparrot2
by Platinum Member on Jul. 19, 2013 at 9:07 AM

I have always been a strange bird. I have been known to read some books on subjects. But mostly, I do alot of self talk. I hate being seen as a weenie. Being a weenie only helps to keep you being a weenie.


Quoting bertaboo1:

Lol totally love this...so much truth. ..some people need help to find that inner peace though. If you had struggles in life...any type of struggle. ..did you just snap out of it? Or did you search for peace and resolution? How did you do it?


Quoting baparrot2:

Don't waste the money. Here is what the therapist is going to tell you, but will take months for you to get.

You have no control over how he treats his adult daughter. You only have control over you.



jlg12678
by Gold Member on Jul. 19, 2013 at 11:47 AM

I'd look for a support group...and not online. 

Many churches and family centers offer support groups for blended families. They are usually run by someone with firsthand experience as a stepparent. 

SMInProgress
by on Jul. 19, 2013 at 12:56 PM

Agree. Definitely not online.

Quoting jlg12678:

I'd look for a support group...and not online. 

Many churches and family centers offer support groups for blended families. They are usually run by someone with firsthand experience as a stepparent. 


HopesNDreams
by Silver Member on Jul. 19, 2013 at 1:02 PM
Please PLEASE come speak to all the therapists and specialists in SD's life!!!! All I hear is how I need to be her mother now and everything that I need to do for her. AND I have to make DH be more involved as I love, nurture, and manage every aspect of her life.

I suggested disengaging for the health and welfare of our other children to one and you would have though I suggested eating babies from the shock on her face. I was told my involvement was crucial - most of that involved allowing SD to scream at me and have no consequences for any if her behaviors.

I vote for Dr Parrot!


Quoting baparrot2:

Don't waste the money. Here is what the therapist is going to tell you, but will take months for you to get.

You have no control over how he treats his adult daughter. You only have control over you.

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