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hubbys x wife scandalious intentions

Posted by on Jul. 22, 2013 at 2:58 AM
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Ok so I been married to my husband 8 years have 3 babies together he is divorced w 3 prior children and she cheated on him chose to leave the marriage lalala he was heart broken and we fought over her playing games w him everytime she thought he was happy she would start flirting or whatever this went on for three months then I left he came and found me a month later said he had enough so didn't talk on phone or anything fir years he says he has nothing but hatred for her lost all love and is so happy he married me and soulmates so we got custody of one of there kids now Ans so she has am excuse to try and talk so last night she texts thinking she's talking to my hubby saying how she wishes they has back what they used to and were bestfriends and how she knows things. Would been diffrrnt if they didn't make the mistakes they did and stuff like that..I'm so pissed Cuz it is obvious she was wanting him to reminse and say some thing to make her feel good about herself and I shouldn't have to deal w this bitch intruding anymore way the hell should I do to deal w this
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TexasGirl90
by Member on Jul. 22, 2013 at 3:09 AM
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I had this exact same problem when James and I got together. BM cheated and they divorced. She had many “flings” after this. Including one with him while we were casually dating each other. He was very apologetic and regretted it immediately. We worked that out. She began emailing him constantly about missing “their family” and how she wished she’d never made those mistakes and that they were “meant to be together.” Well, he didn’t want to be with her any longer and he made it perfectly clear. Though it took a few tries. Eventually he stopped responding. A few months later she tried to tell him she was pregnant with his child (which would make #2 for them). He panicked since we had become exclusive. Turns out she was never pregnant to begin with, she was just desperate. It was a hard time for me, as I was nervous he would go back. However, he didn’t. He was completely honest with me and showed me every email and text she ever sent. She got the point, it took some time, but she got it. Hang in there. Talk to DH about making it a point to explain to the ex that he is happy with YOU, and has no interest reliving a past that lead to nowhere.

packermomof2
by on Jul. 22, 2013 at 3:12 AM

You don't.  If you trust your husband you leave it alone and let him handle it his way. 

There was a woman my husband works with that was interested in him.  He mentioned her to me a couple of times - they trained together, hired together, etc.  She found any reason she could to talk to him.  He can't wear his wedding ring at work either... he works with heavy machinery, so, how would she know?

He isn't the kind of person to flirt - not even with me. So he wasn't leading her on.  I told him she was interested and he blew it off.

We saw her in public and she touched him in a way no woman in her right mind would when they see a man, even one they like, with another woman.  At least I wouldn't.   He realized I wasn't wrong and stopped talking to her altogether so she'd get the picture.

I didn't have to say a word to her.  Nor would I want to.  I know my husband loves me and isn't going anywhere.

kevinskitten25
by on Jul. 22, 2013 at 3:13 AM
It helps that we live in Arkansas now and she's still in Texas but she's put our family thru so much I don't know if I should confront the issue or will I benifit more from seeming unthreatened
whatIknownow
by Emerald Member on Jul. 22, 2013 at 8:18 AM
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If I read a text like that to my husband, I'd be suspicious that he had encouraged her to talk that way to him. I'd probably go through is phone looking for other texts from her, and I'd be suspicious that the two of them have discussed getting back together. 

A text like that is unlikely to just come out of the blue. There must be some history behind it.

hriabywx4
by Member on Jul. 22, 2013 at 10:05 AM
Eh my ex will do that occasionally. I always remind him we were young, we made poor decisions but we made those decisions and now we live with them. I don't encourage him at all!

I don't think DH ex has ever said anything like that to him but if she did it wouldn't bother me.
Pero3
by on Jul. 22, 2013 at 10:11 AM
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Your post title sounds a bit like a porn movie!

So let's assume the lady fancies your DH! So what? I fancy lots of guys! I fancy Brad Pitt ... though I doubt Angelina would worry too much about this!

My advice? Leave his phone alone, then you don't know! Unless, of course, you have reason to doubt him!

the.real.me
by Member on Jul. 22, 2013 at 10:14 AM
That's in an ideal setting. Most women in this situation don't have that. Maybe Dh is naive, playing into it to some degree, in denial etc

Quoting packermomof2:You don't.  If you trust your husband you leave it alone and let him handle it his way. 
There was a woman my husband works with that was interested in him.  He mentioned her to me a couple of times - they trained together, hired together, etc.  She found any reason she could to talk to him.  He can't wear his wedding ring at work either... he works with heavy machinery, so, how would she know?
He isn't the kind of person to flirt - not even with me. So he wasn't leading her on.  I told him she was interested and he blew it off.
We saw her in public and she touched him in a way no woman in her right mind would when they see a man, even one they like, with another woman.  At least I wouldn't.   He realized I wasn't wrong and stopped talking to her altogether so she'd get the picture.
I didn't have to say a word to her.  Nor would I want to.  I know my husband loves me and isn't going anywhere.
GlockMom
by Platinum Member on Jul. 22, 2013 at 10:41 AM
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Ugh......

Spell check and lose the text speak.
KnowItAll
by Silver Member on Jul. 22, 2013 at 11:27 AM
I agree! Punctuation goes a long way too.

Quoting GlockMom:

Ugh......



Spell check and lose the text speak.
orliesmom
by on Jul. 22, 2013 at 11:38 AM

 Agree! I had a hard time following your post.

If it bothers you that much you should talk to your hubby about it. If it continues then something is wrong. Maybe he lead her on intentionally or maybe he didnt.


Quoting KnowItAll:

I agree! Punctuation goes a long way too.

Quoting GlockMom:

Ugh......



Spell check and lose the text speak.


 

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