First 3 hours, now 8 ... WTH BM? vent UPDATE IN BLUE
For well over a month, BM had us freaking out, reworking our budget and preparing for the worst, when she told us she was moving 3 hours away with SD. Worst part is - there is nothing in the court order to stop it.
BM has been kinda crazy the past month or so. Texting my husband asking him to leave me to be with her, so she won't "have" to move. Offering to break up with her boyfriend and when DH told her she was out of her mind that he is happily married with a baby on the way, she withheld visitation, exclaiming "You have your wife, her son and a baby, you don't need MY daughter".
DH asked BM for extra time. SD is going to be starting kindergaten, and we believed she would be moving away. DH wanted to make the best of the summer. BM denied it, even though it would have been DH/SD one on one time while I worked and DS was at the sitters 10 hours a day on every extra day he asked for, which is what BM has been campaigning for all along ( Well, they get lots of one on one, but BM has been campaigning for me to leave my home during visits. )
Then BM tells us that she is not moving, she's renewing her lease. She even told us SD was enrolled, gave DH the name of the school, told him her dress code etc. This past Friday, we are on our way out there. I was going because we had to stop at mother in laws, she bought DS's school supplies.
BM texts saying that SD is staying home with her because " She was acting up " . So DH tells BM he's coming to get her, have her ready. BM says "No she's grounded, she's not going to your house". DH texts back with "That's not an appropriate punishment. figure one out and I'll carry it out at my house. Be there in 15 minutes" - so BM says " Her punishment is that she can't see you this weekend". DH just says " Have her ready" she starts texting that if he shows up she will call the police for trespassing and harassment etc.
She calls, leaves a voice mail. The voice mail is of SD crying so hard that she's hyperventilating on the phone, begging for daddy to please come get her. We get there, and BM comes out all smiles and just hands SD over. Um, what? So you got your daughter and my husband all worked up just for the sake of upsetting them??
Then on Saturday - BM tells us that she is moving out of state. DH just says " Okay, well we'll have to go to court to get something worked out". BM starts bitching at him about it, because he didn't get more upset by it. DH asks if she wants to talk to SD or if she called just to argue. She hangs up on him. sunday, DH is dropping SD off, BM approaches that car ( I'm not there ) and tells SD that they are moving to Kentucky. SD looks at BM and says " And HOW am I supposed to see my dad then? " - LOL DH had not brought this up to SD at all, he didn't want to upset her because honestly it's probably just a line on BS that BM was using to piss of DH. BM says "Oh well daddy will come get you honey"
- Um no! He won't. That's an 8 hour drive BM. 16 hour round trip. God she's so - fucked in the head.
So DH called BM today, and she said she was packing the living room, that SD Was excited, because BM's mom found them an apartment in Kentucky. DH said, "Well, I hope you talked to your lawyer about this move" and she said " Yeah, I did and he said that as long as we agree... " DH cut her off and told her that he doesn't agree, and that she better file her intent to relocate because it takes 90 days. She started freaking out on him. I had to cut him off because HR walked in at that moment, so I don't know what happened next.
I will surely update later