SD is 20 - lives with BM after being kicked out of our house. She just had her first baby almost 2 months ago.
One night stand. Baby is a joy, beautiful. SD is living life like she's footloose and fancy free. Disrespecting her Mom's house rules. Going out every night til 4 am. Expects her Mom to take care of her baby. Gets mad when Mom doesn't want to. Mom is trying to get her to become responsible. DH and I have watched the baby the last 2 weekends. SD has come home in the early morning hours. Sun i stepped back as I wanted to watch the interaction between SD and her baby.As i knew what would happen all along- baby propped up on pillow while having her bottle, me reminding SD she needed to change her, bath her, no bonding,no soft whispers of love, she is treated like a prop. Oh look at me look at what a wonderful single Mom I am. BM and I are at loss as to
what to do. If we don't help out by babysitting she will take this baby with her while she parties. If we do babysit
we are enabling her. There's much more to the story - too much to go into but this is the main problem.
any ideas, suggestions would be so greatly appreciated. BM and I get along very well.