Ahh yes, my EX strikes again with the whole, "how can I do LESS for my kids?" thing he has done so well for the last 15 years.
Days before our son's high school graduation, while I'm inundated in focusing on getting him off to an over $20,000/year college, I get a text from the Father of the Year (who lives 3 hours away and doesn't see his kids too often). It reads, "What time is DS18's graduation and do you know what I need to do to stop his child support?"
I wanted to kill him. This is an emotional time with my child whom I've put all of my blood, sweat and tears into for 18 years...unlike him. It is also a very expensive time. Keep in mind that this is a father who always had to be forced to pay child support. A father who cancelled the kids' health insurance that he was Court ordered to have on the kids w/o telling me. A father who never paid ANY of his percentage of the medical bills (70%) for 15 years even after I got health insurance on them because he was practically a dead beat. A father who ducked out on having child support raised when daycare was costing me an arm and a leg but jumped on it when he could lower it. A father who saw his kid a MAXIMUM of 2 weeks total out of the year for the first 8 years after he took off.
Now he's chomping at the bit to completely STOP child support and has the NERVE to ask me how to do it! Our son will still be provided for by my DH and I while he's at college, our son will still come here often when he comes back from college and for breaks. We will be the ones covering anything for school that scholarships don't cover, the ones who will still be holding health insurance for him, paying medical bills, etc. Ex has not asked anything about finances, about how much college will cost or how he can contribute to his son's schooling. He asks how he can stop giving money to me while I'm still the one taking care of his son. He owes my DH and I thousands of dollars for everything that he hasn't paid in the last 15 years but he's now taking me to Court to stop child support. Our daughter just went to Europe for 3 weeks. My parents were the one who offered for her to go, that they'd pay for the trip knowing my DH and I have 6 kids to care for between the two of us. We paid for everything else in preparation for her to go and we paid for all of her spending money, clothes, etc that she needed. We put all the work into what she needed to do for the trip to get high school credit for it. We did everything. EX never even gave her $5.00 toward her trip. No spending money, nothing.
What would you do? What would your reaction be? When you went to Court would you hold him accountable for all of the bills he never paid that he was Court ordered to pay...twice?