it was step son's first day of kindergarten this morning. both my husband and bm were separately snapping pictures of their son. I walk away for a minute and when I come back my dh is handing me bm's camera and he asks (awkwardly) if I will take a picture of him with bm and their son together with her camera. bm is watching him ask me this because she is the one who put him up to it...it was not dh's idea.
so, he asks me if it's okay. I replied "that's weird" and then dh snapped back into reality and told bm that he wasn't going to do it.I am still confused about what just happened. bm wanted me to take a picture of her with my husband and their son. Was my initial reaction of telling them I am not okay with that, the right move? I know that bm is the type to post pictures all over her facebook and instagram and my concern is that she would post this picture of a "happy family" to include my husband for the world to see.I narrowly see why she wanted the three of them in the picture, for their son to see when he gets older, but is that really wise for him to see them as a family unit in pictures when they are not in real life?My husband did the right thing by asking me if it was okay and then taking my side when I said "no". And, I know that I am now the bad guy in bm's eyes for saying no. Should I have let them take the picture together?
***EDIT*** Here's a curveball. What if I had asked bm to take a picture of me, dh, and ss5? Even if I hadn't asked her to be the photographer, what if she had seen me snapping pictures with dh and ss? Would that have been equally as appropriate as the three of them taking pics? (for the record - i made it a point to not take any pictures with ss in front of bm. i am conscious of her role as his mom and don't want to be disrespectful in any way to her even if it means that I choose the safe route when unsure about how to act) I am just curious how you all feel if the request for pictures had come from a sm instead of bm.